It's not your fault. Planning a wedding (even if you have the help of a professional wedding planner) is a daunting task. You have to think of yourself, your guests, your wedding party, the vendors, expenses, and a slew of other things for your wedding day.
You need help - a bride can't do it all herself and keep her sanity. But sometimes, others will cross the line and almost intimidate you into doing what they want - not what you wanted for your special wedding day.
What often happens, though, is that a family member or friend becomes the overbearing element in your wedding day planning - and you feel awful at the thought of having to put them in their place. You worry that feelings will get hurt or even worse - an argument will ensue - and this is supposed to be the happiest time of your life!
Here's how to deal with overbearing family members: "Mom, can we talk a minute? You know I respect and value your opinion more than anything in the world. But ever since I was a kid, I've had this idea in my head of how exciting it would be to plan my wedding day. I know you're probably able to spot all of the errors I'm making, so I know it's frustrating for you when I go my own direction, but I really need your support so we can just have fun doing this without arguing over the details."
Mom should realize she's being a damper on your planning process, but if she doesn't, simply smile at her, kiss her on the cheek, and say, "Well don't be mad if do this my own way!" and then go on about your business getting everything ready for your wedding day the way you wanted it. If she continues butting in during the planning process, just smile and say, "I appreciate your advice, but I'm going to go with my idea."
Some people just love to argue. If you encounter someone who won't let it die and wants to ruin your wedding day plans, then you need to keep away from that person as much as possible while you carry out your dreams. Yes, it's heart-wrenching, but this is your wedding day - not theirs. Treat yourself right and enjoy picking that red wedding dress or blue bouquet!
Now that you have decided that it’s your day and no one else, will get in your way, purchase the “I’m Getting Married Wedding Guide” today, follow the guide and it will keep you organized.
Have a great weekend!